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Impostor Syndrome and Leadership: The Secret Fear No One Talks About

Emotional Intelligence, Leadership, Personal Development, Uncategorized

A recent special edition of The Economist explored Impostor Syndrome, confirming what many of us already experience firsthand: this quiet struggle is deeply embedded in today’s workplace. Not that I needed external validation. I see it regularly in my work. Different industries, different levels of seniority, different personalities — yet the same underlying tension emerges again and again.

Highly capable professionals confide in me about a persistent inner voice that questions their legitimacy. It whispers — sometimes it shouts — that they are not truly up to the task, that they were hired by accident, that their success is somehow a misunderstanding. Entrepreneurs tell me they fear their company was born out of reckless boldness rather than competence. Executives dread the moment someone will “finally realize” they are not as capable as they appear.

Externally, they project composure. Internally, they are exhausted. It takes extraordinary energy to look confident while suppressing the fear of being exposed as a fraud. That silent effort drains attention and creativity — resources that could be invested far more productively elsewhere.

 

The Hidden Companion of High Performers

What is striking is that this feeling of “never quite enough” rarely appears out of nowhere. It is often the shadow side of a performance-driven education and professional culture. From an early age, we are encouraged to aim higher, push harder, outperform expectations, and constantly improve. Achievement becomes the baseline. Satisfaction remains elusive.

The bar keeps moving, and whatever we accomplish quickly feels insufficient. The very mindset that fuels excellence also plants the seeds of chronic self-doubt.

And here is something equally important: you are not alone in this. A significant number of the people you admire most are wrestling with the same internal dialogue. You simply do not see it, because they hide it just as carefully as you do. Impostor Syndrome tends to visit those who care deeply about their work, who set high standards, and who strive to contribute meaningfully. In that sense, it may say more about your ambition than about your inadequacy.

A Signal of Growth, Not Proof of Fraud

Interestingly, Impostor Syndrome often surfaces at very specific moments: before taking on a stretch assignment, before stepping into a new leadership role, before launching something bold, or before navigating unfamiliar territory. It rarely appears when we are comfortably operating within our existing competencies.

That pattern is revealing.

The feeling may not signal incompetence; it may signal growth. It tends to arise precisely when we are expanding our perimeter.

The real difficulty is not that the feeling exists. The difficulty lies in carrying it unconsciously — like a backpack filled with stones — investing enormous energy in managing the discomfort rather than directing that energy toward meaningful projects.

 

Unmasking the Inner Voice

At some point, it becomes necessary to turn around and examine it more closely. Whose voice is this, really? Where did it originate?

Many high-profile professionals discover that their harshest inner critic echoes comments heard decades earlier — from a teacher, a parent, a peer. Some remarks were openly critical; others were framed as protection or motivation. The objective is not to assign blame but to create separation. Those voices belong to the past. They do not have authority over your present.

Does Impostor Syndrome ever disappear entirely? Probably not. As long as you are ambitious, curious, and willing to stretch beyond your comfort zone, it may resurface from time to time. But it does not have to paralyze you. It can become something else — a signal that you are entering territory that matters, that you are evolving, that you are playing a bigger game.

Seen through that lens, Impostor Syndrome is less an indictment and more a compass. It points toward growth. And perhaps the presence of that discomfort is not evidence that you do not belong — but proof that you are expanding into your next level.

by Alexandra Humbel
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Behind the Scenes at Thierry Mugler: Leadership Lessons From the Fashion World

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In the picture, this was me around 2000, fully immersed in a corporate career in the fashion industry that I thought I would never leave. The recent passing of the immensely talented Thierry Mugler brought me back to that time, when I served as Director of Public Relations for the company he had created. It was an intense chapter of my life — rich in learning, challenges, and inspiration.

In this photo, I appear calm and confident — the kind of confidence Thierry Mugler wanted for his female clients. His perfectly tailored jackets, elegant with a sharp, sensual edge, had the power to instantly elevate a woman’s presence. That was certainly the effect they had on me — and on the many clients who felt something close to devotion toward him. As Maya Angelou said, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

This role marked a major step in my career: leading the most strategic department of a highly regarded Parisian Maison de Couture. During those two intense years, I had the opportunity to refine my leadership skills in a complex and demanding environment. Here are a few insights I carry with me to this day.

1. Leading people who are more skilled than you

In previous roles, I had been the undisputed expert in my field. I hired junior team members and trained them until they could manage projects independently.

At Thierry Mugler, I stepped into a team of highly skilled, autonomous professionals who did not need me to tell them what to do. When preparing for Paris Fashion Week, they orchestrated flawlessly choreographed shows from A to Z — casting models, negotiating venues, coordinating logistics, technical teams, music, dressers, hair, and makeup — all the way to showtime. Backstage: 100 people. In the audience: 250 top journalists and international TV crews. All delivered on budget and with remarkable agility, despite last-minute creative changes from the designer.

I was deeply impressed.

So I focused on what I could uniquely bring: strengthening international media exposure and optimizing global PR strategy. But you don’t lead experts by trying to out-expert them. My role was to create the conditions for their excellence — helping them grow and feel valued, navigate conflicts, and represent them at the executive level when needed.

2. Stay curious about change — especially when you resist it

As the company underwent significant structural changes, I found myself caught between two realities. The CEO relied on me to communicate decisions and help the team adapt. At the same time, our daily work was directly impacted by choices that, in the short term, compromised performance.

When we relocated offices and showrooms, we risked losing proximity to journalists and stylists who regularly pulled pieces for editorial shoots. I remained loyal to leadership and committed to implementation — but internally, I struggled. I did not hide my doubts very well.

With hindsight, I realize I could have stayed curious longer. Being right in the short term is not always the most constructive stance. Sometimes the wiser move is to leave space for possible positive outcomes to emerge.

Curiosity is not denial. It is allowing time for new dynamics to settle.

More importantly, instead of trying to shield my team from inevitable change, I could have empowered them more actively to co-create solutions.

3. Never underestimate culture — but don’t lose yourself in it

Working for a designer I admired was an extraordinary privilege. Beauty and artistic vision were everywhere — from iconic Haute Couture creations to the futuristic universe surrounding the brand. Thierry Mugler himself was fascinating: cultured, intelligent, magnetic. Journalists, often rushed, would linger longer than planned just to listen to him speak.

Yet I was not prepared for a Maison with such a strong, unspoken culture. Much of it was implicit. It took time to decipher the codes: the intricate communication patterns, the invisible support systems, the subtle dynamics of power.

The pace was driven by passion and urgency — often with little regard for conventional working hours. I invested enormous energy in adapting. But as the mother of two young children, the long hours and emotional intensity gradually weighed on my personal life.

That chapter taught me something essential: culture can elevate you — and it can consume you if you are not attentive to your own boundaries.

Looking back, I feel deep gratitude for having had the chance to “touch the stars” — the emblem of Angel, the iconic perfume by Thierry Mugler.

I am grateful for the growth, the stretch, the lessons, and the privilege of witnessing genius up close.

That chapter shaped me — as a leader, and as a human being.

 

by Alexandra Humbel
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Reinventing Work After 50: A Conversation About Purpose, Freedom, and Longevity

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Meet an inspiring ground-breaker and achiever, a leader who is changing the culture around age, work, and living a purposeful second act of life.

Ed Kushins is an ex-US Navy submarine officer, entrepreneur, startup investor, social innovator, sharing economy trail-blazer, people connector, avid traveler, and good life lover.  Please join me for a fascinating conversation on a sunny Californian beach with my ex-boss, mentor, and friend, a man who makes his most strategic decisions barefoot in the sand.

How did your 50’s look professionally?

In my 50’s I was running two businesses in parallel. One was a family scrap metal recycling business, Fairway Salvage, that I subsequently built from 2 to 55 employees. I had a partner on board, which allowed me to run the company without spending too much time on it.

The other one started more as a hobby than a business but ended up becoming much larger. I had been on a home exchange vacation with my family and came back enthusiastic about the concept. The owner of that company declined my offer of some free marketing advice, so I started my own company in competition. The game-changer was taking the service from paper to digital, making HomeExchange one of the first online communities in the nascent sharing economy.  In 2006, the romantic comedy “The Holiday” propelled home exchange into the spotlight. The success of the movie was a booster for the company, which started to become profitable.  The same year, I sold Fairway Salvage to focus on HomeExchange.

From day one, I ran the company from my home near the beach in Southern California, never from an “office”. It was a conscious decision that when building the Team, I recruited Reps, Customer Service, and even my Partners exclusively from our community of Members. I figured they would be satisfied users who could relate personal experiences and would know everything about the home exchange process with almost no training.

To help our 60+ Team members (who all worked remotely around the world) bond together, I invited them every year with their families to a half-work, half-vacation retreat somewhere fun, usually on the beach… Evian, Croatia, Greece, Biarritz, Hermosa Beach, Myrtle Beach, Mt. Tremblant, Taormina, and more! With the input of my Team and partners, HomeExchange continued to grow until we sold it to a competitor in 2017.

When you sold HomeExchange you were hitting 70. What was next for you?

I was happily retired for 6 months, then a new idea kicked in. I am a networking guy, I’m always looking for ways to connect people. My new website, VacationPropertyPartners.com, connects two families to partner to split the cost and enjoy the benefits of a vacation home. We “hold their hands” until they buy the vacation home together.
Besides VacationPropertyPartners, I make myself available to help business owners with their marketing strategies. I am an active member of the Rotary, where I contribute to 3 to 4 projects. As an ex-Navy officer, I am part of an initiative that helps veterans re-enter civilian life. I am also active in an investors’ group focusing on startups.

Do your professional engagements support other aspects of your life?

Totally. I’ve made a conscious effort to not only keep a balance between the time and energy devoted to the professional and personal areas of my life but to use each of them to enhance the other. Terry and I love to travel and I actually chose to concentrate on HomeExchange because it allowed me to create more opportunities to do so for business and pleasure. For me, learning, meeting people from around the world, building a successful business around a product, culture, team, and members that I believe in, have all been incredibly satisfying.

Along the way, I’ve developed some habits and rules I try to follow:

  • Keep my work, personal life, and health in balance.
  • Prioritize my tasks so I know what I want/need to do each day/week/month/year. Sometimes “Go to the beach” is on the list. It’s OK to get away from the computer for a while.
  • Appreciate my customers and try to keep them happy.

I’ve got 5 long-term priorities… “The journey of 1000 miles”  that I’m taking the first steps on:

  1. Appreciate my wife and always try to make her happy
  2. Do what I can to stay healthy
  3. Launch my new website, VacationPropertyPartners.com
  4. Write (or dictate) a memoir
  5. Finish my long-in-process (only 35 years) book about the personal decision-making process. Becoming aware of how you make personal and professional decisions, however big or small, is a super-power.

What is your definition of success and how would you evaluate your success on a scale from 1 to 5?

Definitely 5/5. My insight into how and why I’ve made the choices I’ve made allows me to accept and feel comfortable with what I’ve done.  I accept the result of choices and actions that I’ve made along the way, given my expectations of the risks and rewards, as well as the work, time, effort, and sometimes money I’ve followed through with.

Life is good. Every night I go to bed grateful and excited for another day.

by Alexandra Humbel
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